21 July 2020

How to help a friend with depression PART 4


So no one told you life was going to be this way
Your job's a joke, you're broke, you're love life's DOA
It's like you're always stuck in second gear,
Well, it hasn't been your day, your week, your month, or even your year

But, I'll be there for you, when the rain starts to pour.
I'll be there for you like I've been there before.
I'll be there for you, cause you're there for me toooooo...

(My favorite song from my all-time favorite American hit sitcom series from 90'S "F.R.I.E.N.D.S"πŸ’Ÿ.)

If you want to help someone with depression, kudos to you, you are a good friend and most importantly, a good human being!πŸ‘πŸ™ŒπŸ™πŸ‘Š

As I dug into this topic of depression more and more, I realized, it is not a silly matter. Depression is a serious silent/violent mental illness. So, first thing first, kindly do not self-diagnose someone or yourself to be into depression. I think people should never even dare to joke that they or someone else is depressed in life. Better use a more sober synonym like being sad etc. You see there is a difference between the normal ups and downs of life and mental health concerns like depression with serious repercussions.


So,I believe, if you have doubts about someone or yourself to be into depression, then self-educate yourself first about depression symptoms and treatments and then, also, gently educate or share the information with the person/friend you doubt may be in depression.

However, it may not be easy for anyone to accept that they have depression, a serious mental illness, and consult a medical doctor for the proper treatment without any delay. It is a serious yet fragile topic that should be dealt with genuine kindness, not just sympathy. If you don't mean it from the bottom of your heart, kindly stay away and not make it worse for them. #Don'tBeASadist

I found this information in a Bipolar Support Facebook group that sounds like an apt way ,"what to say and what not to say to someone with depression."

Ironically, I find most of the people in social media to be nothing less than bipolar πŸ˜ŽπŸ˜‰πŸ˜‹πŸ˜€πŸ™Š, (no offense to people who have bipolar disease though, I just mean the meaning of that word in general ) ,surprisingly, that's how some become popular too.....#FakeBooks' ...... That being said, social media is indeed also a great medium when it is used for the right purpose "to help others " by hook or by crook, harmlessly, with a good intention.....#BassItniSiBaat  #WhyIHaveABadRapportWithSocialMedia #NotInterestedInAnyBadlaAndTamasha #LiveAndLetLive
#AlsoNotMyFavouriteWayToBeInTouchWithMyKithAndKin #YoursTrulyOldSchoolπŸ™πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜‰πŸ˜Ž

So, Bipolar Support Facebook group experts say,😊


I love this sentence, "We are not on this Earth to see through one another, but to see one another through ."πŸ™ŒπŸ’—

However, point 7 (what to say), I would never tell anyone that I can offer my compassion..sounds like a favor to another...it should come sincerely from inside and in action not in words I think...

Point 8 If the other party needs space though, I would happily oblige but I will keep an eye for sure ..

This is by far the best, what to say or not to a person with depression I came across though...

As shared here, I believe is a crash course on depression and how to help someone with depression :

So, it seems like it is not an easy task to help our near or dear one going through this tic tac toe disease. It will be like walking on eggshells. We should also not forget that no one is immune to this disease ...Just be there if you can BUT only if your intentions are pure and good and not just sympathetic or obligatory...


And my whole point of writing on this topic as much as possible is my small way of spreading awareness from the bottom of my heart. Since I am neither popular nor good with social media and social networking, my sincere humble effort may not reach far and wide especially to those who may need it. Moreover, there are already many resources online and offline by experts/professionals related to depression.

This is just my two cents/take and my blog's little effort to make a difference somehow. I am praying to almighty(my Manager/PR/Marketer/Promoter πŸ™πŸ™ŒπŸ˜Š) that this post/message reaches the right person at right time and by all means, they will grasp the actual point and may find it helpful in some way. #Fingerscrossed #Touchwood #PraiseTheLord

If it's for a good purpose , then don't be afraid to even stand alone and speak your truth...#BeAGodPleaser

Be the reason someone smiles not frown !!😊

Not done yet, but I promise next will be the last, the finale and the most important scary subject I wanna talk about ...

So, stay tuned..


God bless 

Till then and always,

Take care,

P.S. Hope these numbers work,got it from internet.If you or someone you know is actively considering suicide, 
please contact a suicide prevention hotline immediately.Your privacy/confidentiality is a priority here.Most of 
their services are available 24/7. 

In India,AASRA,Mumbai-+91 98204 66726,PARIVARTHAN,Bangalore -+91 76766 02602,SNEHA FOUNDATION,
Chennai - 044-24640050,iCall-+91 22 2552111 and +91 91529 87821,Vandrevala Foundation-+91 730 459 9836, 
+91 730 459 9837, and 1860 2662 345   

In the U.S. contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 

In Canada contact Crisis Services Canada at 1-833-456-4566 

In the UK contact Samaritans at 116 123

In Australia contact Lifeline at 13 11 14

Please call them if you are in emotional distress and need someone to talk to. 

Lotus blooms in swamps,stars shine in darkness ,likewise,YOU are precious.Pls don't give up 
on yourself.Life is a gift.Every problem has a solution.Show it how STRONG you are !! 
YOU got this and YOU are enough !!

DISCLAIMER:This article/blog post is for informational purpose only and are not intended to 
offer any personal medical advice.Please consult a medical professional for proper guidance and